•Consider your words before speaking
–“The heart of the righteous ponders how to answer. But the
mouth of the wicked pours out evil
things.” (Prov. 15:28).
–“There is one who speaks rashly like the thrusts of a sword, but the tongue of the wise brings healing.” (Prov. 12:18).
•Avoid attributing motives—we can say what motives appear to be. God
knows the heart.
•Use “I” messages instead of “you” messages--less threatening.
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