•Avoid getting
physical. Don’t push, slap, shove or hit. Stay out of the face.
•Avoid extreme thinking
and talking. “You always…You never…Every time I…” Rarely is the other person at the extreme.
•Avoid the burdens of
history—dredging up the past.
–Col. 3:12 “And so, as those who have been chosen of God, holy and beloved, put on a heart of compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience; bearing with one another, and forgiving each other, whoever has a complaint against anyone; just as the Lord forgave you, so also should you.”